For some people, discovering that they want to be in a polyamorous relationship is a realization gained through seeing this type of relationship in media or real life and suddenly recognizing that this is what they wanted but didn’t have the words to describe. For others, engaging in a polyamorous relationship is a slow period of self-discovery and gradual awareness that monogamy is not the only option for a relationship. However you arrived at the place where you are considering a polyamorous relationship, welcome!