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Uprooting Imposter Syndrome
Chronic feelings of inadequacy, fear of being “found out” as a fraud, difficulty using your voice, all despite tangible success and positive feedback. Does this sound familiar to you? This pattern of experiences and feelings is often referred to as imposter syndrome, or imposter phenomenon. Originally coined in 1978 by psychologists Pauline Rose Clance, PhD and Suzanne Imes, PhD, imposter syndrome was described as an internal experience of self-doubt plaguing high-achieving women (1, footnote). The scholarship on imposter syndrome has evolved significantly over the years, resulting in helpful critiques, tips, and guidance. Below I’ll review some insights that can help those of us who experience imposter syndrome uproot these feelings and ground ourselves in critical consciousness, compassion, and confidence.
Grounding in Light Meditation
Looking for a new way to practice mindfulness and feel more grounded? I love this "grounding in light" meditation written by Nancy Napier and found in her book "Sacred Practices for Conscious Living." If you're just starting out with mindfulness meditation, you can read more about mindfulness in an earlier post. You may also want to give mindfulness of breathing a try before you engage in this meditation.
Seasonal Self-Care
As daylight savings time ends and the weather grows colder, you might find your mood changing and your motivation waning. Here are a few tips that might be helpful as you prepare for the change of seasons and the upcoming holidays:
Election Mental Health Preparedness
A hot topic in my sessions lately has naturally been the election. Regardless of political view or level of passion/apathy, there's a wide range of stress that has been slowly building.
Many of you might be managing well enough, some of you perhaps not so much. I knew I wasn't prepared when I watched the first debate, turned it off half way through because I couldn't stand it, and had a nightmare that night.
Quiet your inner critic with self compassion
If you’re like most women I know and work with you’re way more critical of yourself than you are towards other people. We have a harsh voice running in our minds all day long: “why did I say that?” … “I really should lose weight” … “I’m so stupid and can’t do anything right”.
Instead of judging yourself, try self-compassion. Dr. Kristin Neff describes self-compassion as having the same kindness and understanding towards yourself that you have towards others when they are having a difficult time.
Love yourself first, then you can love others better. Loving-kindness meditation.
We often find it difficult to love ourselves first. Why is that? Perhaps we got the message from a young age that putting our needs first, or even loving ourselves, was selfish. And selfish is bad, so be sure to always consider others first. How has that internalized message been working of you? It's silly to fight with old standing beliefs we have about ourselves that no longer serve us. Instead, it's more helpful to acknowledge what is true and stick to it, even when it means redirecting yourself over and over again.